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Summer Date Ideas for Friends, Flings, or with your Significant Other 

If you’re like me, you’ll find that dating – or going out in general – is exponentially more fun during the summer. Patio season? Yes, please! When Chris and I first started dating, I so looked forward (and still do!) to the breaking of the season and the many options and opportunities that came our way so that we could spend more time together and even just be happier around each other! 

 

In general, the winter months are hard on our minds and bodies. This makes for a great opportunity for low key date nights in with you S.O., whether that’s watching a movie and ordering in pizza or cooking a nice hearty soup together and binge watching The Office on Netflix. As the months of winter drag on, I find that the lack of variety in date night becomes hard. According to this article on the Guardian, pleasant weather improves mood, memory and creativity. 

 

Bottom line: the ability to do more and engage more with our friends and loved ones makes people happier.

 

However, summer isn’t necessarily the best time for dating for everyone. It can be hard on people who are just starting out in a relationship. Sometimes, you’re unable to peel yourself away from that family reunion across the country and your S.O. can’t come along or it’s not really introduce-them-to-the-whole-family level yet. Sometimes, life or work or commitments are just more demanding in the summer months and a social life falls by the wayside. It’s good to remember that summer is a great time to keep things simple and to spend quality time with those around you. Whoever they may be.

In this blog I rounded up a few of our favorite date night ideas for you to try with your partner, a new summer fling, or a friend or family member! 

 

For Foodies

Farmer’s Market Shopping

Hit up your local Farmer’s Market for a half day of shopping and meeting/trying out new vendors. Try a ton of local and healthy produce that you don’t always find in your local grocery store and then create a meal together when you get back home!

Outdoor Brunch or Picnics

Whip up your favourite brunch meal together and eat it outside on your home deck or pack it up and bring it to your local park for a picnic. I find that picnics are grossly overrated and that people always picture a basket full of food, but in reality, it can be kept simple and delicious! Go to your local deli for some cheeses, crackers and other charcuterie munchies then enjoy them outside!

Wine Tasting

I mean, obviously. I don’t know what’s offered in your town but look into options in local restaurants. Wine tastings are great because they basically make you into a wine expert overnight and help you know what foods pair best with your favorite merlot.

Creative Dinners

Summer is the best time to get creative with your meals. If you have a BBQ at your disposal, get creative in how you use it! Make homemade pizza dough and cook your pizzas on the BBQ for the coal-fire effect. 

Food Tour

Create your own food tour! Pick 4 or 5 different restaurants near you that you wouldn’t normally try out. For us, it’s always on the boardwalk. At the first restaurant get a soup, then the next a salad, then the next share an entrée, then share a dessert at the final one! It’s a good way to get in a meal, get in some steps and enjoy time together. 

 

To Get Active

Bike Rides to the Beach

If possible, go for a long bike ride or ride over to the beach (if you live near one) for a relaxing day and a swim. Be sure to pack bottles of water and plenty of sunblock!

Long Walks, Taking the Ferry

If you’ve been experiencing a busy season, take some time to slow your pace by taking a walk and just chatting. Take your time and wear comfortable shoes and enjoy the fresh air. Chris and I are lucky enough to live in an area that has a cute little ferry. We choose to take it just for fun!

 

Paddle Boarding

Get ambitious and take some time to enjoy a new (or maybe old) hobby by paddle boarding. It’s a fun, grounding and exciting activity that both you and your partner will enjoy!

 

To Relax

Matinee Movie & Dinner Afterwards

On those blazing hot summer days, go see that new release that you’ve been dying to check out in a nice, air-conditioned movie theater and enjoy the smaller crowds. Afterwards, hit up your favorite go-to restaurant for dinner – as long as you’re not full from the popcorn!

Drive in or Dive In

If your city or town still has a Drive In theater, take advantage of it! A quiet nice and movie from the comfort of your vehicle! Or, see if a nearby hotel pool has a Dive In night where you can watch movies from the pool!

Daycation

Okay, this is one of my favorite things to do – go to a nearby hotel and spend the day by their pool or at their spa! See what the options there are for entry and spend the day thinking that you’re somewhere else and let all of the things on both of your minds disappear… 

 

To Adventure Together

Amusement Parks

Whether it’s Disneyland or somewhere local, check out an amusement park and see who wins the oversized teddy bear first. Or, see who gets scared on a ride first 😉 In our relationship that would be me. 

 

Sporting Events or Concerts

Outdoor sporting events and concerts are key seeing as most people want to spend as much time outside as possible. See what MLB schedules are like near you or even soccer and football leagues. Concerts in outdoor venues are also super fun as long as you cross your fingers that it doesn’t rain.

Take a Day Trip

Maybe you just need to get out of town – literally! Road trips are a great way to reconnect with your partner (or besties) and it doesn’t need to be extravagant. Simply pick a small town in your state that you’ve never been to before and go check it out. You’ll likely find a lot of fun, quirky shops and restaurants to enjoy!

 

Did you try any of these? Will you? Let me know in the comments below! I hope this can spark some summer creativity and overall, happiness.

 

Marriage/Family

In the spirit of love <3

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I cannot believe Chris and I are engaged!!! To say I am excited to marry this man, is an understatement. I am simply ecstatic! We have received SO much love and well wishes from so many friends, family members, and all of YOU!

To kick off our engagement, we were lucky enough to have some friends of ours, who also happen to be marriage counselors, give us some amazing advice. Since February is the month of love and all… I wanted to share the words with you, as I know many of you out there are in relationships and can always use some inspiration!

 

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Learn from your past
We all have junk in our past. The best thing each of partner can do is to acknowledge their junk, work through it, and grow from it into a better, healthier person. Anyone who thinks they can drag their junk into a new relationship and just bury it in the back of some closet is making a huge mistake. Lastly, sharing your junk with each other gives you both the chance to be honest, vulnerable, and authentic. This, in turn, fosters greater intimacy. In essence, your past junk can be leveraged to grow your future together. How awesome is that?!

Live in the present
We talk often about how important is is to be present for one another, to really be there in the moment. Everyone says, “Yeah, yeah, I know what that means,” but fewer couples know how to live out being present day in and day out. Let’s be honest, there is a great deal of stress at times in medicine and emergency services. When you choose to be present for each other, you are essentially saying, “There is nothing more important than me being here for you in this moment we have together.” This is how lifelong partners learn to stay well connected.

Plan for the future
Couples don’t plan for their marriages to fail, many times they merely fail to plan. Planning together in a marriage is really dreaming together. What will our life together look like in five years? Ten years? What kind of vacations would we enjoy together? How many kids (or dogs) will we have? Even when your spouse’s dreams are out of your comfort zone, dream anyway. Falling in love is easy, staying in love requires a plan.

Choose your spouse again every single day
We all have so many choices to make in life each day. Shouldn’t the first one be to choose each other all over again? It sounds elementary, but choosing each other every day takes effort. It takes intentionality. It takes two people who acknowledge that a great deal of things COULD come between them over the course of their life together, but they will refuse to let that happen by choosing each other every day.

Forgive readily
Your spouse will do things that drive you bonkers! No really, they will. Also, you will do things that make your spouse crazy. That’s exactly what grace and forgiveness are for. Grace says, “I don’t understand, but I choose to love you anyway.” Forgiveness says, “You don’t deserve a get-out-of-jail-free-card, but I’m going to give you one this time anyway for two reasons: first, because this weight is too heavy a grudge for me to carry, and second, because I hope to receive the same kind of forgiveness when (not if) I need it.” The two of us always say to give away grace and forgiveness like candy. This does not mean you allow yourself to be walked on. On the contrary, it means you are taking the higher ground and not letting your spouse’s shortcomings become your own burdens.

There will always be something in life worth fighting for: each other
It seems these days that everyone has a cause, let your cause be that of showing the world what selfless, committed love looks like. You will disagree, argue, and fight at times. When this happens, remind yourself of what is worth fighting for. Is it worth it to fight over who squeezes the toothpaste tube the wrong way or who leaves the toilet seat in the wrong position? HECK NO! Fight for each other. Always.

No plan B
Spouses who keep an exit strategy in their back pocket will be more likely to use it as a means to avoid doing the work required to stay together and grow. Besides, what’s so bad about doing some work to stay together? That’s how we grow in all things. We all remember the times we wanted to quit school. When we pressed through the rough spots, we grew and overcame. We became better and stronger. Marriage can be the same if we are not constantly looking for a reason to invoke Plan B.

Dance together, slowly and often
There is something intimate, sexy, and fun about slow dancing together. Each of you should be deliberately spontaneous at times to grab the other and dance. Shut the world out, look into each other’s eyes, remember why you fell in love, and just dance.

Be the person you want to be married to
Most spouses spend far too much time wishing their spouse would change and far too little time working on changing themselves for the better. This is tragic. Be in the habit of working on yourself first so that you are a better person in light of the whole, not in spite of it.

Surround yourselves with others who have the kind of relationship you want
We talk often about this idea of having marriage mentors. Surrounding yourselves with great marriages is the doorway to healthy marriage mentoring. A rising tide raises all ships. This can be true of marriage as well.

 

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As I read each of these points, I couldn’t help but be even more excited to jump in and surround myself with all the relationship inspiration and literature that I can get! There’s just something about February and Valentine’s Day that really puts me in the spirit for love. And bring on alllll the red and pink!

Although Chris and I have a solid relationship, Brad and Tami’s advice brings up such crucial points. There will be so many obstacles in life that may bring about challenges, and no matter how easy and perfect your relationship is, it is SO important to know how to navigate through these challenges. 

I look at marriage counseling and advice books as excellent resources. I used to be the type of person that wouldn’t reach out for more information, unless I felt there was a problem. Well I feel totally different now. Life is hard. Shit gets real. Bad things happen. And I’m going to do everything in my power to be prepared for those hard times! Geez… practice emergency medicine much, Cassie? Can we say prepared to paranoia status? 

In all seriousness, I am psyched to be kicking off my engagement with so much love and happiness around me. Thank you all so so much for being such a great source of support regularly! 

 

You can learn more about our friends, Brad and Tami, here. And if you want daily relationship inspiration (I am SUCH a sucker for the daily inspirational quotes!!), you can find them on IG @tandemmarriage.

Dr. Majestic

I invite you to take a glimpse into my crazy, beautiful life in medicine and allow me to teach you my health, wellness, and lifestyle tips along the way. 

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